If at first you don't succeed, try, try again!
Learning to sleep through snoring is a lot like learning any new skill. Expect a shaky start , a time when you'll get your bearings, and a time when it finally feels easy.
When I first learned to ride my bike, I had a cool banana seat and some training wheels on that bad boy. I was allowed to ride it in the house and even on the lawn because I was just learning. I needed a lot of help to even start feeling comfortable with the moving forward motion, despite having training wheels as a safeguard.
Once those mini wheels came off, the whole world changed! But you better believe my Dad hung onto the back of the bike seat for the first few rides to reduce the chances that I'd plow into something. I loved the new freedom of zipping around on my bike but on more than a few occasions I caught a patch of loose gravel on the driveway and toppled over, scraped knees and all. That happened more times than I'd like to admit, but for a kid on a mission to feel the wind in my hair as I raced through the countryside, a few tumbles didn't get me down. I kept going. And then one day, out of the blue, I was good at riding a bike. I could hop on and get going without thinking much about the logistics, the ground didn't need to be inspected for big stones that might interfere with the tires, and best of all, I didn't even need both hands to ride.
Even though the internet wasn't a thing when I was learning to ride a bike, I doubt any kind of hack or quick tip could've helped me learn how to ride a bike. It's something I needed to try out and keep trying to get the hang of it.
The approach was simple, yet effective.
Figure out where I was starting from and where I wanted to end up: I never rode a two-wheeler before and needed training wheels to move. My end goal was riding on my own two wheels without help. Perfect!
Discover where the sticking points were: Starting and stopping were the things that didn't come easy. There were so many variables and coordinating my feet felt clunky and unnatural. Once I was in motion though, things were ok.
Deconstruct the tough stuff into more simple steps: Left foot on the ground, right foot on the pedal. Big push down with the right foot, then another with the left. That simple pattern got me started. It took some thought and consideration but in the end it was way better than pushing myself along Fred Flintstone style until I got momentum and then trying to get my feet on the spinning pedals. The methodical pattern of breaking down the "get going" process saved me countless gouged ankles I otherwise would've experienced.
Start practicing. And keep practicing: Sometimes my legs were sore and I had a hard time getting up the hills. But you know what? The hills got easier the more I practiced. And this has been true for just about everything else us grown ups attempt to improve at. No one is a superstar from the beginning.
I know I'm not alone in my childhood quest to ride a bike. The same process also came in handy when rollerblades were introduced. And when I learned to drive. And most recently when I learned to sleep through my Husband's snoring.
If we know there will be a learning curve when picking up a new skill, why then do so many people get frustrated and give up on finding a solution to help sleep next to a snorer?
Maybe it's because as adults we're busy and can't be bothered to take on another learning assignment. And that would be a totally valid point IF it took a long time or tons of effort to learn how to sleep through snoring. But it doesn't.
Maybe it's because we think the snorer is responsible for the sound they make while sleeping. And that point too could be totally valid IF you're content giving away control and ownership of your sleep and relationship.
If it's important for you to have a loving relationship with your partner, and that includes sleeping in the same bed, why not prepare for sleep the same way you approached learning to ride a bike. With excitement, curiosity, and the belief that in the end it will all be worth it.
Because it totally is.